Code of Conduct

The Kinky Salon Code of Conduct was developed to state our intentions and standards to be followed by newbies and long-term members alike:


Be creative, both with your costume and in general
Be open and explicit about your wants and boundaries
Respect the space and others
Participate actively and take responsibility for the party and others
Ask first, and get explicit consent


Assume anything
Get too intoxicated
Take photographs or videos
Hangout alone in play spaces
Talk about what happens at Kinky Salon

The long version…


Be creative about how you dress. Dressing-up is expected at Kinky Salon. Every party has a theme and we provide a list of dressing-up inspirations: the dressed-up partygoers become an essential part of the otherworldly atmosphere at each event. But it’s not about having the most fabulous, over-the-top costume, nor is it about spending lots of money on expensive threads. A bit of imagination and a sense of humour cost nothing. If you feel more comfortable with just one or two accessories from a fancy dress shop then that’s fine – but please never come in standard streetwear.

Contribute when and where you can. The Kinky Salon community is created through the efforts of everyone involved. If you want to volunteer at an event it’s easy- just sign up on the website. If you want to perform or have a creative offering, just email and let us know. We would love to hear from you.

Negotiate your boundaries. Speak up! If someone makes you uncomfortable, for ANY reason, then you should let them know. That includes touching without asking, saying something that offends you, or even just looking at you in a way you don’t like. Be nice, be graceful, but be firm. And if you’re unsure if something is ok, ask first!

Play safely and consensually. Be clear about what your safe sex practices are, and never stick your finger up someone’s butt without asking first.

Have sensible safe sex practices. Condoms on toys and… you know, everything else that goes in warm places. We provide some latex and non-latex condoms, gloves and lube but please bring your own. Make sure you clearly communicate that you are using a condom – don’t wait for the other person to ask. Disregard of this rule is unacceptable.

Respect our space and each other. Being respectful towards each other and our environment means that we can build an atmosphere of trust.

Leave no trace. Clean up after yourselves!


Assume anything. We know we all look amazing in our outfits, but don’t assume that someone’s wearing short shorts or a collar as an invitation for you to be a space invader.

Linger unaccompanied in play spaces. Please, please, please, don’t hang out on your own watching people! It makes them feel uncomfortable and it makes you look like a Wanky McJerkoff!!

Cruise aggressively (even if they are really cute). Learn to know the difference between ‘playing hard to get’ and ‘get the fuck outta my face’. If you are given a hint, then take it. There is nothing more unattractive than desperation. By the way, this goes for Facebook and our website, too. If we receive complaints about people abusing these online social spaces to cruise, we may ban you.

Get too intoxicated. Having a couple of drinks is fine, we are all grown-ups here. But if you get shit-faced we will notice and we will ask you to leave.

Take photographs. We usually have a professional photographer here to capture your fabulous outfit, but we don’t want private stuff going public. So keep your cameras AND your mobile phones stashed for the duration.

Gossip about what goes on here. NEVER mention names or specific activities on any public blogs or message boards. What happens at Kinky Salon stays at Kinky Salon.