How to be a playroom sweetheart

How to be a playroom sweetheart…

Our playroom is one of the most friendly and most fun on the scene. The code of conduct, with your support, is what keeps it that way. Our rules apply to everyone regardless of gender and, whether you’re a first-timer or a seasoned regular, we expect the highest standards of behaviour from Kinky Salon partygoers.

Respec’ the space, yo’

The playroom isn’t a chillout area, and it’s also not a bar. So please no bottles, no smoking and if you want to lounge and chat, there are lots of sexy spaces elsewhere.

Make friends before you get to the playroom

It’s not okay to enter the playroom unless you’re with someone you plan to play with. If you have had the bright idea of teaming up with a wanky wing(wo)man just to gain entry, hoping to get involved in a scene that’s already going on, think again.

If your playmate(s) leave(s) the playroom and you find yourself at a loose end, take that as your cue to leave. Under no circumstances linger in the playroom alone.


Even if you are with a playmate, be careful about engaging in voyeurism. There’s a difference between “seeing” and “staring”. Some people love to be watched; most do not. So be sure to ask before watching, and that also goes for times when you may be playing yourself. Put that zombie face away: no-one wants to see you drooling like a Wanky McJerkoff!

Consent: Get it, give it

Get consent for everything you do. Whether it’s kissing, touching, biting, spanking, stroking, licking, whatever: check that it’s okay and that it’s what your playmate wants. Just because someone is not saying ‘No’ doesn’t mean it’s a ‘Yes’.

Instead of assuming, just ask. That goes especially for approaching someone for the first time or joining a scene. It’s best to talk, but even if your mouths aren’t available there are other ways and there’s no excuse not to get some sort of signal of consent.

Negotiate your boundaries

Being clear about what you are comfortable with is just as important as gaining consent. Don’t be afraid to say ‘No’ and to let your playmate(s) know where your boundaries lie.

Saying what turns you on can be sexy as hell. It might seem weird or embarrassing if you’re not used to doing this but if you’re playing with beautiful strangers it’s essential.

Respect other people’s choices. Be graceful and don’t be offended or try to argue if someone says ‘No’ to you. Equally, be firm but polite when you turn people down.

Safer sex, no exceptions

Put condoms on toys and… everything else that goes in warm places. Make sure you clearly communicate that you are using a condom – don’t wait for the other person to ask. Disregard of this rule is unacceptable. We provide some latex and non-latex condoms, gloves and lube but please bring your own.

Be upfront about your safer sex preferences. It’s okay to ask for your playmate to use gloves or a dental dam if that’s your thing.

Keep it clean

No, not that kind of clean! Be as down and dirty as you like, but clear up after yourselves. That “squishy surprise” is potentially a health hazard as well as being downright nasty to put your hand in. We provide bins for your used condoms and sex supplies so please use them.

Speak up!

We all make mistakes, get over-excited or misread the situation from time to time. But the only way we can be aware of our behaviour is if other people let us know. It is everyone’s responsibility to let other guests know that they are in danger of breaking our code of conduct or these guidelines.

By communicating positively, every guest and every member of crew can help to prevent misunderstandings from developing into anything serious. If someone makes you uncomfortable, for ANY reason, let them know immediately. That includes touching without asking, saying something that offends you, or even just looking at you in a way you don’t like.

Our walk-around hosts are on hand for sticky situations. Even if you’re not involved in a scene, if you see a potential problem, feel empowered to have a quiet word or to get one of our crew/walk-around hosts involved.

If you need to make a complaint about another guest, please try and tell one of the crew or a walk-around host on the night. We will always investigate complaints, even after the event, but the sooner we hear about it, the more likely we can bring about a happy result for everyone.